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Through thousands of hours of his own training, counseling, reading, group work, and coaching, he has truly mastered what it takes to break free from shyness and social anxiety into a life of confidence. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please purchase your own copy. There were also many moments of, "Okay, I get it, I already bought the book, you don't have to keep selling me on your point. It’s definitely helped me crack the layers of guilt, approval seeking, and fear developed from growing up afab in the US.
This authenticity allows others to see and know the real you, which allows you to really feel love and connection. If you have trouble being assertive at home, at work or with your friends and family, you’re not alone. It offered some good tips and practical pointers on how to approach both shadow-work and making lists of things that you want to change about yourself. The audio book was very long, as others have stated, but I think this is the type of book that you have to listen to a little bit at a time to take in the lessons.Especially the one about writing down all the rules that you've made for yourself that you feel bad about breaking and the one about trying to figure out exactly what you like and want. Heroine Sophie Miller already feels seriously uncool, no thanks to her toe-curlingly embarrassing family. I liked and found this book useful, though I really hate when you get to the end of a book like this and they're like "Hope you found this useful, I love books too but if I hadn't done in person training I would have achieved zero of what I talked about in this book : TRY MY DEVELOPMENT SEMINARS.
Don't give up on doing what you think is right, or best based on the emotional response that it might provoke in a single person. However this resonated with me because people’s choices to feel good or bad is like I said A CHOICE, that I have nothing to do with. I have the right to choose how much I want to see a friend or someone I’m dating, and end the relationship if it does not feel desirable to me. Feeling desperate, she acts out of character and lands herself in trouble, but the question is, will Sophie be brave enough when it really matters?Hesitation: You often wait for the “right thing” to say (and thus speak way less than you normally do). At the end of the book there is a 30 day boot camp that give you a small daily task to BREAK FREE of your NICE PROGRAMMING. All those hangouts we did not want to attend and the amount of things we say yes to but secretly feel resentful about are mere signs that we are NOT GENUINE with our true needs and wants.
Relationships are hard, but when you’re with someone who’s emotionally unavailable, they can be draining. A lot of details on our conditioning to become nice and how the environmental pressures start taking us to not be ourselves under the notion of you are not nice! Long answer: I've struggled with people pleasing, anxiety, low self esteem, and stuttering my whole life. After all, you don’t want to be assertive for just one day — you want to learn the skill so you can use it throughout your life. Through books, coaching programs, online trainings, and live events, he helps thousands of people eradicate social anxiety and instill deep self-confidence so they can lead extraordinary lives on their terms.
I particularly appreciated the author's emphasis on the importance of being true to oneself and living an authentic life.
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